by Ruth Berhe
There was a time when I was alone
Nowhere to go and no place to call home
My only friend was the man in the moon
And even sometimes he would go away, too
Then one night, as I closed my eyes
I saw a shadow flying high
He came to me with the sweetest smile
Told me he wanted to talk for awhile
He said, "Peter Pan, that's what they call me
I promise that you'll never be lonely,"
and ever since that day…
Anyone heard the song Lost Boy by Ruth Berhe? It was a big hit a couple years ago, but I haven’t heard it in a very long time. I thought of it out of the blue the other day, looked it up on YouTube and paid attention to the lyrics. And I realized that it was basically the song of fantasy. Or at least, the song of the hearts of fantasy nerds. So many things about this song are things that a lover of fantasy can relate to.
It begins with the singer alone and friendless. Ever feel like that sometimes? Okay, yes, we readers and writers want to be alone most of the time so that we can enjoy our other worlds without distraction. But most of us would still like to have the option to be around people, if we wanted to, to have someone missing us when we can’t make it to an event because of a deadline.
Knowing that you're totally alone, that no one is missing you, that no one wants you around, is not the kind of alone that we like. And that’s how a lot of people discover fantasy, by searching for an escape from the negative and painful things in the real world. And that is where this singer begins.
In the second verse, Peter Pan and his shadow show up and tell her about an amazing other place she could go where she will never be alone. Yes, that could be taken creepily. But bear with me for a second.
Who can say they’ve never wished someone from another world would show up and whisk them off to some better place? Somewhere where there would be other people like them, people who would understand them when no one in our world could. Some place where they would never feel lonely.
So Peter shows up and promises her she will never be alone again. And she becomes one of the lost boys.
I am a lost boy from Neverland
Usually hanging out with Peter Pan
And when we're bored we play in the woods
Always on the run from Captain Hook
Wouldn’t it be nice for life to be as simple as it was when you were a little kid? You could hang out with Peter Pan and the lost boys. If you got bored, you could play in the woods (which is the coolest place to play! So many possibilities) There’s always that Captain Hook to be on the lookout for, but you have your friends to help you take him, if you need to. Just you in a way cooler world doing fun stuff with your kind of people.
Neverland is home to lost boys like me
And lost boys like me are free
Have you ever felt weighed down and tired and just the total opposite of free? Wouldn’t it be nice to be a free lost boy? To be free of school or responsibilities or money problems or the guilt of unmet goals or whatever else is going on in your life? That’s something we like about reading in general, and especially reading fantasy. It transports the reader to another place where they can be free and safe while still enjoying the adventure.
As we soared above the town that never loved me
I realized I finally had a family
Soon enough we reached Neverland
Peacefully my feet hit the sand
This song is also about new beginnings and getting rid of negative things. As the new year approaches, you’re probably thinking a lot about goals. And a fresh new January First is a great time to start those new things. But you know what will help you accomplish those good things? Getting rid of the negative things that are clogging up your life.
So how exactly am I getting all that from this song?
As we soared above the town that never loved me…
This line is chock full of meaning to me. I see a girl flying over a past she was stuck in, recognizing that it is now gone and feeling like she won't miss it all that much. She looks toward the second star to the right and keeps flying to that new and wonderful thing.
So maybe something that would help you meet those New Year’s Resolutions is getting rid of negative things or even people in your life. Or at lest decreasing the amount of time they have to drag you down. That town that never loved her could be someone making fun of your dreams, criticizing your writing in an unconstructive way or getting onto you for reading too much when you should be doing something that they think would be a more constructive use of your time. Maybe you need to find a new way to deal with those situations.
What in your life needs to change? Maybe you need to cut back on the amount of TV you watch so that you'll have a little extra time to read and make your Goodreads goal. Or maybe you need to read a little less to get those words on a page and spend time querying agents or researching editors if your own book is ever going to see the world. Maybe you need to change some spending habits to make room in your budget to meet your favorite author and get a book signed, or to save up to pay for an editor and cover designer.
Sometimes things need to be changed if you're going to keep them from ruining your accomplishments. Don’t let anyone stomp around on your dreams in 2018, and don’t let unnecessary things steal your accomplishing time away. And while you’re out to protect your dreams, help them graduate from the dream phase to the reality phase. It may take time to show the doubters that your dreams were always more than just nice ideas, but you can only make them a reality a little at a time, and what better time to start than now?
He sprinkled me in pixie dust and told me to believe
Believe in him and believe in me
Together we will fly away in a cloud of green
To your beautiful destiny
Start flying away to your own “beautiful destiny!”
Here are a few things you can start doing to make your dreams happen in 2018, and the best part is, you can start them right now! Don’t put it off any longer, or you will keep being in danger of putting it off forever. Start now. It doesn’t have to be a big thing, just some little step toward the beautiful destiny you want to reach for.
Write your 2018 goals down, and write down some eclipse goals (long term) too, if you have them!
Make a breakdown by month or quarter so that you can even out the work and avoid reaching September with nothing done and wondering where all the time went
Plan what you will carve out of your schedule to make room for these things that are more important to you, even though they're harder to do. You have to make the time for this to happen, otherwise it is too easy to be lazy and fall into old habits, and you can't make dreams happen that way
Get an accountability partner! (Not the jerk making fun of you!) whether or not you have a constructive accountability partner already in mind, comment some goals below and feel free to email me to share your goals and get some more accountability and encouragement! I would love to hear from and encourage you and hear about your success in the coming year!
I wish you all the best of luck!
Check out the full song lyrics and listen here. I definitely recommend listening to this! Its a really beautiful song.